Setting Boundaries and Saying No
Objective:
Learners learn to recognize and effectively communicate personal boundaries. The goal is to convey the importance of saying "No" as an act of self-protection and self-respect, empowering them to set boundaries clearly and politely in various situations.
Content and Methods:
The worksheet explains setting personal boundaries as a means of protecting one's well-being. It provides examples of physical, emotional, and digital boundaries. A case study serves as a basis for practicing how to say "No" clearly but politely. Learners reflect on the feelings that arise when saying "Yes" against their will and when saying "No." In partner work, situations where boundaries were unintentionally or deliberately crossed are discussed. Finally, learners identify trusted individuals and resources. Methods include text analysis, brainstorming, case studies, reflection questions, and partner work.
Competencies:
- Recognizing and naming personal boundaries
- Applying techniques for saying "No" in various situations
- Self-reflection on feelings when setting boundaries
- Analyzing situations where boundaries are crossed
- Identifying trusted individuals and resources
Target Group and Level:
Grade 7 and up
Note:
Worksheet 2 of 4 from the series "My Body Belongs to Me" - Middle School Level
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Setting Boundaries and Saying No
Effective Setting of Personal Boundaries and the Power of "No"
In everyday life, we often encounter situations where we're expected to do something we don't really want to—whether it's a favor for someone, peer pressure, or uncomfortable questions. This is where recognizing and setting personal boundaries becomes crucial. Everyone has the right to say "No." A clear "No" can help protect ourselves, conserve our time and energy, and maintain healthy relationships. In this worksheet, you'll learn why it's important to listen to your own feelings, how to set boundaries politely but firmly, and why this is about self-respect, not selfishness.
📋 Task 1: My Boundaries – My Safety
Everyone has personal boundaries. These boundaries protect our well-being and safety. They can be physical, emotional, or digital. Name three examples of personal boundaries that are important to you.
Write down examples.
👥 Partner Task: Discuss why it is important to respect and set boundaries. Afterwards, share your findings with the group.
📋 Task 2: The Art of Saying "No"
Saying "No" is a powerful tool to protect your boundaries. It is a right that everyone has. Read the following text carefully and then answer the questions related to it.
A Late-Night Request
Josef was having a great time at the club, where the music was loud, and the night was young. As the evening wore on, he realized he would need a ride home. His thoughts immediately turned to Hassan, his reliable friend, who had always been there for him in times of need. Josef pulled out his phone and sent Hassan a quick text message, asking if he could pick him up later that night.
Hassan was in his living room, relaxing with a book and enjoying the peace and quiet after a long day at work. He heard his phone buzz and saw Josef's message. Hassan knew that Josef often relied on him for rides, especially when he went out for a night of partying. Hassan had mixed feelings about it; he valued their friendship but felt that Josef sometimes took advantage of his willingness to help.
Josef, sensing that Hassan might hesitate, decided to call him directly. As soon as Hassan picked up, Josef started talking rapidly, explaining how he had lost track of time and how he really needed a lift home. "Come on, Hassan," Josef implored. "You know I would do the same for you. It's just this one time."
Hassan listened patiently, but he remembered the countless times he had driven Josef home late at night, sacrificing his own rest and plans. Josef's request was becoming more frequent, and Hassan felt like it was becoming an expectation rather than a favor.
Josef continued to push, saying, "Please, Hassan, you're the only one I can count on. Everyone else is either too busy or already asleep." His voice was almost pleading, trying to convince Hassan that he had no other choice but to help.
Hassan sighed, feeling the pressure of Josef's persistent request. He knew he needed to respond in a way that was firm but not rude, a way that would allow him to say "no" without feeling guilty or damaging their friendship.
📋 Task: How could you say "No" clearly and politely in this situation without feeling rude? Formulate three different ways.
What feelings can arise when saying "No"? What about when saying "Yes" even though you actually want to say "No"?
👥 Partner Task: Sometimes boundaries are crossed unintentionally due to carelessness and sometimes deliberately. Together, answer the following questions.
Trusted Person
Who could you confide in if you have difficulty setting your boundaries or if they are repeatedly ignored? Name three people or resources.
Group Discussion
Reflection: What role does self-confidence play in setting boundaries?